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Vibezz4Life

No this is not normal, I hope you can reach out to someone to get help since this is a form of abuse and many other people can agree that this is highly inappropriate of the parent(s). There are many other forms of abuse aside from physical, like neglect, sexual, mental which I feel like most people don’t know.


viixin

I currently have nobody that can help expect my bf who's making plans to try and fly me to him in america in the future, but I really appreciate your concern so thank you


Vibezz4Life

Of course, it sounds terrible and this will definitely lead to some form of mental stress right now and in the future. I turned 19 recently and I have learned about some of the forms of abuse I had experienced which cause me stress from time to time and haven’t had the opportunity yet to move out, so I like to go out more often than not. I’m not too sure on how to go about this aside from contacting someone who can help you such as the police or a domestic abuse hotline potentially if available. Sorry I don’t know too much about this, but if things worsen don’t be afraid to get help. 🙏


viixin

I'm really sorry that you had to go through that stress, I hope that you're able to move out soon though! I'm really grateful for your advice, I never even knew that this was a form of abuse so you've helped me a lot, thanks again


Possibly_Famous

This boyfriend....I am presuming you've met him online only? How old is he that he's able to make these plans to fly you to America? I have concerns......


alecexo

Right! They need to make sure this boyfriend is 100% who he says he is because they could very well go from a bad situation to a worse one


viixin

We were friends irl for years but he had to move overseas because of his family, but he is a year older than me so he could make those plans sooner. Those plans that he's making can only happen in a couple years though


Fickle_Celery_8257

He's 14 or 15 and you've known him for 'years'? Proceed with caution ⚠️ at Every turn.


viixin

I've always been cautious when it comes to relationships, but I will still take your advice


Fickle_Celery_8257

Not for nothing but, 'Always been cautious of relationships ' You say you're 14!! Wowww I would luvvv the opportunity to talk to ya mama cuz mmmmm shyyytts messed Up for you severely, I feel for you. I really Hope you can find 🙏 someone to Help You. You so deserve better and a Chance..


DerthOFdata

How old is your boyfriend?


daring-hedgehog

I am very concerned about what you said about a bf. It sounds like you’ve never met. Human trafficking and love scams are very common and you’re in a lonely, isolated situation and looking for relief.


EquivalentSnap

Same. I hope he’s not a pedophille


fasting4me

This is abuse. Call CPS and they will help you get out of there. They will place you in a safe environment until you are at least 18. At 16 you can join job corps to complete your high school education or GED along with gaining a job certificate so you can begin your independent life. You get to live there, the foods good and it’s all free, you even get an allowance to go shopping off campus. I got my GED and CNA certificate in 2011. My mother abandoned me at 16. Good luck you deserve much more than this


Fickle_Celery_8257

At your age, and education level ( dropping out at 12 or 13) you are going to face so many more obstacles than usual..if you say you got Nobody, try calling fir social workers, guidance counselors at schools(even tho you don't go,they should be required to help you if not for just your age Alone. I know things are bad,and you want/need an escape, But the person you are in contact with, whom you really only know what they told you.. proceed with caution ⚠️ the grass isn't always greener. Curious of his age too.


superdupersparky

Really isn’t okay…. It’s disgusting she would do that to you. You need to get out of there…


ComfortableExam

I'm so so sorry you're going through this. This is extremely abusive and inappropriate. And I just wanted to add, I'm begging you with all sincerity to stop cutting. I'm speaking from personal experience, the longer you keep doing it the harder it is to stop. I was about your age when I started and on top of the physical scars, the impulses just continue to plague me. Not to mention how easy it is to cut too deep, cut in the wrong place, let a cut get infected...


viixin

I have been trying recently and I've gone a few days without it, which I'm proud of myself for. I've only done it when "that event" happens or when she makes me so it's not that often. but I'll remember your words if I ever have the temptation again, thank you so much


daring-hedgehog

This will help you a lot with cutting and your emotions. It is used for very painful periods and is very well-respected in therapy circles. It’s called “dialectical behavioral therapy” and it teaches you how to cope and also deal with relationships!! I urge you to read this free copy…but the link is broken and doesn’t light up all the way so you have to select the entire thing, copy and paste the link (pdf is the end) into the url bar : https://survivingcptsd.files.wordpress.com/2018/01/dbt_skills_training_handouts_and_worksheets_-_linehan_marsha_srg_.pdf


collwhere

Wait a minute. What do you mean when she makes you???


viixin

She usually gets mad and says stuff like "you have a way of de-stressing don't you?" then grabs my arm or something and doesn't let go until I cut another line. It's not that much of a trouble but it does get annoying at times


collwhere

Nope! That’s a lot of trouble. That’s awful! I am so sorry you go through this. I don’t have much advice, but I really hope you get to get out soon!!


viixin

thank you that's really nice of you to say


TheBigggestPeeePeee

Take a video(for evidence), and call the cops, exposing(being naked) yourself in front of a child is a felony in every state.


Xipos

They aren't in USA but if imagine there are laws almost everywhere


Ersthelfer

Being nude in front of your child isn't illegal here in Germany afaik. I think many people do it without caring. Tbh, as a father I find the idea really weird. But that is just me, not the law. But I think having sex in front of your child is illegal, I am not completly sure though.


kittybabylarry

There’s a diff between being naked in front of your child and being naked in front of a child that’s not yours


TheBigggestPeeePeee

And there's a difference between being naked infront of your child and getting it on in front of them and telling them to deal with it.


plainoatmeal_

I agree with another user that you should try to enroll back into school. (I won't reply to their comment bc I disagree with the rest of it and they're an AH who is talking to a 14 year old as if they're an adult and you are not responsible for how your parents treat you). But it seems that might be your best option right now for your future and wellbeing. I know you probably dropped out due to your home life and what you are experiencing right now is a very traumatic situation, further hindering your ability to focus at school (what the other user doesn't understand is the likely PTSD you're suffering outside of the home and simply going to school or work doesn't magically make the flashbacks disappear and rainbows come out). You said your bf is trying to help fly you to america, so I assume you live in another country? How is your school systems there? Going back would be your best bet bc they have counselors, therapists, and authority that has procedures and systems in place for students\children who are victims of abuse. Did you have a teacher you liked best when you were enrolled? Any member of the staff you'd feel comfortable talking with? Remember you don't need to be enrolled at that school anymore to ask them for help. If anything that would, unfortunately, probably help your situation. What about your boyfriends parents? Are they aware of your situation? Could you write them a letter or email asking for help if you're not comfortable talking verbally? Would you be able to send that letter safely, or have someone do it for you? I know it's really hard for you to trust adults right now, but there are adults out there who can, will, and want to help you. Additionally, you might be able to find some other free legal resources at your public library. If you're too scared to be direct about your situation, you can state you're doing an extra curricular project for school to provide resources for abused teens and see what they're able to help you with. They may also be affiliated with abuse programs. I'm not a legal expert and I don't know laws well at all but I also second getting proof. What they are doing is sexual indecency in front of a minor, which can be a felony conviction along with a title of sex offender for the following years after. And please, please, please take care of yourself. You've been a teenager for less than 2 years and I can't imagine the shit you've been though outside of this post. You're about my age when I left home when shit hit the fan, too, and I really wish I could tell 14 year old me to please find a community outside of your boyfriend and your family. Please don't use the idea of your boyfriend in another country as your exit plan. He's very sweet trying to help and I'm sure he's doing his best but he is also (hopefully lol?) your age as well and can only do so much in his position. You need friends, online or in person (in person helps a lot), and adults who will be there for you unconditionally and realistically can't provide that, unless maybe he gets his parents involved (which may also be a good idea). And lastly, just because some people have it worse doesn't mean you don't have it bad. This is a bad situation. You have a lot of us validating that for you, and you deserve to get out of it. (Edited to add on more to my comment)


VeganMonkey

This is a good post! I was worried why OP stopped school so early, that will affect them later in life. And school can be a good escape from the mum’s behaviour. Get a good education and get away from the mum. Or is the school really bad, that can be an issue too. It all depends which country, area and the school too.


plainoatmeal_

I can only assume OP stopped going bc of being distracted with thoughts about home. OP is only 14 and with parents like this it's safe to say they aren't giving OP the structure and stability a child needs to succeed in school. The act of going to school and physically being there does not distract or erase the trauma enough to solve the problem. This is child abuse, and to expect a child to be able to focus on their classes after being PURPOSELY EXPOSED to sexual intercourse as if the rest of her peers parents do the same thing? As if there won't be PTSD, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, triggering events\sounds (kids in middle\high school are obsessed with sex bc it's off limits and taboo)to deal with on a daily basis? and being surrounded by people your age just learning and exploring their sexualities and being peer pressured, it is incredibly overwhelming! The other user was implying OP was simply at home too much and could just go outside, where it is literally not the child's responsibility to give parents time to have sex, mom could wait and even if OP sat at home all day it doesn't give the parents the right to expose their child to private sexual encounters. OP dropping out doesn't make it okay for this to happen and they aren't not a burden for being at home. I think what irks me most about them saying to "just go back to school" is that what happens after school? What if OP doesn't have the ability to stay after hours in tutoring, a safe place to study, do coursework and projects? Does OPs parents sound like the type who would even take her to school? They don't live in america, what if they live somewhere where transportation is poor or unsafe for kids? Where kidnappings or trafficking is happening? How does that user think "just going to school" is going to happen, and what do they expect to happen once OP needs to go home? Do they think abuse will stop bc mom had some free time? No. School would be the best option right now because of the resources and support they can find through the school district. I wouldn't even say to focus on their grades entirely bc that won't be easy to do, but they might be able to get involved with their studies enough to wiggle their way out even in the long run. Ideally yeah: re-enroll, study hard, get scholarships and leave home with some security for the future; but that's easier said than done, especially when abuse is involved


VeganMonkey

Good points. Depending on the country there are so many more issues involved. But what an awful mother to do that! No kid wants to see that!


plainoatmeal_

Absolutely, I really hope OP is able to get out of this. I haven't seen any updates so I hope they're okay.


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Yeah that’s pretty fucked up.


Earthlingikky

Get out, find a group home or something seriously. This is borderline child abuse, like omfg... you need to leave a group preferably ran by women, I say this as a man, but I just don't want you to get into a worse situation, ik it's so hard but you gotta stop cutting yourself, I used to cut myself, it's been many years since I've done that, and you seriously might regret it, you're all that you have, you're your own best friend, you don't wanna go around destroying yourself. I wish you the best little one, please be safe, and get out of that awful place, you're too young to realize this now, but your mom's not fit to raise you.


seniairam

do you have any immediate family that can help you out? this is def not normal, sorry you're going thru this. is there a way to gather evidence and go to the police? how old is your bf? please don't go from a frying pan into the fire.


Good_Needleworker126

That’s definitely not normal and I believe would classify as some sort of abuse.


bringmeahigherlove

I'm so sorry. I don't have much advice but please know that you should never worry that others "have it worse". I did that for years, downplayed my trauma and convinced myself that I didn't deserve to reach out for help and use up resources when others had it worse. But we wouldn't look at a gunshot wound to the shoulder and shrug it off because a gunshot wound to the head is worse. The truth is that someone will *always* have it worse and that doesn't mean that you don't need or deserve help. Your emotional reaction to the situation is valid, your mental health is important and you deserve help. The situation you're in is not healthy or normal and you deserve so much better. I wish I could sit down with you to talk, you sound much like myself at 14. I'm 26 now and I'm 4 years self-harm free. I started at 10 years old and for a while I thought I'd never be able to stop. Gradually I went for longer and longer periods of time without cutting and now here I am. It's a tough mountain to climb but I promise that you can do it. If you're as much like me as I suspect you are- you might feel weak sometimes. You are not. You're just tired from having to be so strong. I wish you the very very best. Keep pushing through, I have no doubt that your future is a beautiful one. It gets better❤️


FeatureAble7881

this is not normal. that anger and sadness you're feeling is you being betrayed by a mother who was supposed to protect you and instead is deeply traumatizing you.


BabyCow1725

That’s child abuse and sexual abuse, you being in the same room as them, especially awake, with them knowingly having sex in front of you is including you in a sexual act without your consent and your a minor. And it’s disgusting and wrong on so many levels 4 years is too long, please, for your own mental health and well being, try and find a way out of that situation. If you can get proof of what’s happening do that(without them knowing so they don’t take your phone). If you aren’t comfortable recording them or yourself in the room while its happening, maybe record later while your phone is in your pocket when you ask her to stop and tell her it makes you uncomfortable when -and say what is happening so you have it on recording so no one can say it was about something else- and then her response to that should be enough evidence. talk to a trusted adult (family member, friend’s parent ect) about what’s happening and involve cps/the police You have a right to be angry, and a right to be sad. I know what it’s like to try and minimize a situation in my head, think it’s really not that big of a deal when it is, I’m trying to unlearn it myself. But as I said this is sexual abuse of a child.


steph109

Maybe put like a rope up and hang a blanket or curtain over it? If you can do that.


viixin

I do hide under my blanket most of the time which helps but I always need to come out for air and then get hit with that smell again


steph109

Oh no you shouldn't have to put up with that I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope you don't have to much longer.


viixin

I also hope that it ends soon but thank you for your support


c0smichoney

this is disgusting i’m sorry you have to deal with this, is there any adult you could tell about? i know you said you dropped out of school but maybe they could help you? also how old is this boyfriend? please be careful


Vinny6420

Your mom is a POS


giglio65

you need to be in school and somewhere safe. this is abuse


SirVeranPortusNotmer

Get back in school. Get a good job. Move out. Gaurantee you mom will kick you out at any moment. Being a drop out is really going to hurt you.


Gigiseesu

I am a step mother to a 14 year old so reading this is absolutely triggering. You have my sympathies. I am not trying to be rude, but if you think you are old enough to not be in school then you should have a job and plan on getting emancipated to move out. Put a plan together and get your life straight on what you want since your mother seems to not have a care in the world about anyone else but her. Otherwise go back to school, make some friends and start staying over at their houses. My home situation when I was your age was no one near as traumatizing but I was able to get away when ever I wanted and stay at my friends houses or my grandparents. It is pretty disgusting for an adult to put a child through something like that over and over. It’s up to you if you want to report her to whatever agency, CPS, even the police. But the cutting is a temporary relief and it’s only going to leave you with scars which will remind you about these times over and over. As for the boyfriend. Long distance doesn’t work. Find FRIENDS right now. I discourage an intimate relationship for multiple reasons one major one being how the boys will try to have sex with you and who knows if you can handle that as you need to cope with the vastly inappropriate behavior your mother has put you through. Find solutions for yourself please and get out of this situation. Please do not feel hopeless. You have strength, find it, use it.


footbody

Call CPS or other authorities on your worthless skank of a mother. This isn't normal.


Inevitable_Leek_1622

Do you have anywhere you can stay? A relatives house perhaps? If so please tell them about your situation immediately and ask to crash at their place, and also have them help you with contacting CPS. I’m really sorry this is happening that’s so fucked up:(


Lazy-Ad-4245

I'm so sorry that you have to go through that, it's such a horrible experience The same thing happened to me, although my mum never did it infront of me but she would bring a lot of men into the house and have sex with them while me and my younger sister where at home. She was very neglectful and abusive. I hope things get better for you soon 💓


viixin

I'm sorry to hear about your mother doing that, I hope that things have gotten better and you and your sister are okay. and thank you for the support, it means a lot


Lazy-Ad-4245

Me and my sister are ok now we don't live with her anymore :) Goodluck and I believe things will get better for you too


viixin

that's great! I'm glad that you two are better now and thank you, you're a very nice person


Lazy-Ad-4245

Ohh thankyou so much, you are too!


TheSmeep

Call the cops, that shit is child abuse.


myselfwho

Please talk to someone about getting into therapy so that you can talk about this. My parents had sex in front of me, I even remember them having sex in the shower while I was in the shower with them at 4 years old. They had sex in front of me from when I was at least 4 years old up until I was about 10 or 11 when they got divorced. I'm 26 now and it still pisses me off, especially because they seem to think there was nothing wrong with it. But therapy does help, and so does keeping a journal.


EquivalentSnap

Wtf 😳 really? While you were in the shower as well? That’s gross how they did it in front of you🤮🤢🤢


viixin

that sounds terrible, it's good that you're not going through that anymore. and I could get a book to write in, so thanks for the suggestion!


GrilledChickenZaxbys

The mom and boyfriend can get put on a sex offender list for this. How old is this boyfriend btw?


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My mother did that when I was a kid. They got mad when they woke me up. It tears you apart, I know! Maybe it can be incentive to one day be independent.


slugsquad0007

Yo…this is horrible.


viixin

To everybody asking or wondering, I live in south africa. The justice system is pretty bad here so things like this get swept under the carpet.


Xipos

I posted a standalone comment but I would encourage you to please read it and also possibly reach out to counseling providers in both SA and USA. There is someone out there who will help


idekbro565

Just be as annoying as possible. Use your laptop to play obnoxious sounds, music, whatever. Ruin the mood as best as you can. Cock block and clam jam em. Spill soda or something on em.


viixin

I appreciate your idea, but they might break my stuff if I try that


[deleted]

Im glad your post got bumped. You need to get some real help. Contact a teacher, police officer, or talk to an adult you can trust. I hope your situation gets fixed


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viixin

I can't do that because they'll get mad at me


m4rsh13

I'm 14 and my mother is also 40. I'm also a child of divorce. I can't even fucking imagine how messed up that is. I don't know the legality of the situation or how to deal with it, but I really hope that you get some form of help soon.


Catlover790

as you alr know from the other comments, this is absolutely not normal and i'd consider it abuse. ​ I think the best thing you can do for now is to find ways to eventually leave the household, I recommend to get back and school if possible/worth it & work to move to america with your bf


Catlover790

I wish you the best, good luck out there


BreathOfPepperAir

This is extremely messed up. As others have said, this is abuse, so no wonder you feel angry and all sorts of emotions because this is affecting you. This is NOT normal, for the record. I hope u can get away from there


Ken_20

Wow, that's wild. Heck, I'm not sure what to say to that let alone give some helpful advice.


castawayley723

This is abuse. You need to call authorities in your country right away. Idk where you are from. Maybe go stay with family or a friend but this is affecting you mentally and physically. People..... aaaaarrrggghhh....


Xipos

The fact that your mother has to talk partners into sex while you are in the room should be an indicator that it is not okay and not normal. If I'm being perfectly honest I would try to reach out to a mental health professional. I know your mother would probably find it unnecessary and therefore wouldn't pay for it but what harm would maybe going to some counselor websites and selecting the "contact us" page and sending a message to a few explaining your situation, your inability to pay for services due to your age and situation, and needing advice. It's very possible that at least one will respond back with an email giving you some advice or maybe possibly offer some probono work to help due to your circumstances. The worst they can say is no and that's why I encourage you to reach out to several


viixin

I would try that but I don't know any health professionals besides the ones that my mom makes me go to. I'm pretty sure that my mom's therapist is a scam though


Xipos

Just Google search for mental health professionals [here is a link](https://findhelp.co.za/directory/trauma) that lists off several therapists and counselors in South Africa that specialize in childhood trauma. Send these people an email, hell write up a single email explaining everything and copy/paste it and send it to everyone in this list. The wider the net the more likely you are to catch a fish. Someone can surely take 5-10min to give you an email with some quick advice on how to better your circumstances.


llamabeefbitch

This is totally weird and gross. Sounds like something out of a bad porno. Ick. I hope you can find some help or some way to make this stop.


verlockedyt

reach out to the police


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viixin

I was never close or in contact with anyone in my school before I dropped out, my mother never really cared about them either


Fickle_Celery_8257

First of All, yes I have to point thus iut,cuz I believe this is a Huge part, you've already been dropped out if school a year so at the age of 12 or 13,I mean 😳 that's a very big deal. I'm wondering who you have for support besides a long distance relationship that you've never even met, and dealing with what's goin on with your mother ( I use the term loosely from your post) If that's goin on like you state( not normal whatsoever) I'm sure there's more than that as well, to be so downright inappropriate, sloppy,filthy,self centered I could go on and on and on, but I think you most of all know these things. I would try getting resources for yourself but due to your age I know there will be issues, but maybe you have an adult family member ir a good friends parent,anyone who you can Trust. You absolutely deserve/need some Help. That is without a doubt a serious form of abuse.


A_THOUSAND_SWORDS

this is abuse, get away from there as far as possible


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viixin

I think I understand what you're saying and i agree with everyone who said that you were insensitive. I don't find it easier to watch my mother do that, I hate it with my entire being. If I could go back to school then I would, but money is scarce and there's bad people so i can't do that yet, but I will try to get an online schooling. and I never said that I would be dependent on my bf, he's supporting me in a hard time and trying to help me. I can get on my own two feet when i can


Ymirsmama

Girl. I’m sorry you thought I was insensitive. I just hate when people focus just on encouragement rather than actually saying hey - there’s something you can do to make this better. I understand your concerns but you need some type of schooling NOW. You also have to search for youth programs etc where you can go to get away from home at least once in a while. The more you do and are out of the house, the better it will be overall. This bf may be your soulmate or best friend but can you imagine going to the US without even a high school diploma? The only reason I was annoyed was because people don’t even care you dropped out of school. What’s happening is of course horrific but you need to swallow a bitter pill and go to school. Btw I got so riled up because I’ve been in similar terrible situations and was suicidal for years. You know when I started to get better? When I was able to provide for myself and get distance from the assholes abusing me. Stay strong.


Pigeon_Cabello

Way to be insensitive.


Ymirsmama

Way to be too sensitive with no real substance.


[deleted]

SHUT THE FUCK UP


Ymirsmama

No.


pink_skyyy

This is a child are you serious right now ...you're insane. They are being traumatized. No matter if she goes to school it won't make the ptsd she probably now has go away. You're talking like they are an adult and can make adult decisions. This child probably couldn't mentally take what was happening at home and go to school. You really have a hard time with empathy I gather and placing yourself in others shoes. And what you say isn't true btw


Ymirsmama

Sure bud.


[deleted]

Dude wtf?! They dont find it easy to watch their mother having sex, they literally said they cut bc od it, ignorant fuck. Also SCHOOLS HARD.


Ymirsmama

Exactly- they need to do it even though it’s extremely hard and I’m by no means minimizing their issues AT ALL. but the worst thing they can do in these circumstances is quit. Do you know how much of a dangerous situation it is for a young girl to put herself in the complete dependence of a man and that too in another country. Self harm is not at all ok and by no means was I saying it’s easy - just some tough love.


[deleted]

‘Can’t believe you find it easier to watch your mum have sex than go to school.’


Ymirsmama

Learn English pal.


[deleted]

I LITERALLY SPEAK ENGLISH?! I WAS QUOTING YOU!


Ymirsmama

Then what are you 2 years old? Can you not interpret something in context? I meant both things are hard but you gotta bite the bullet and do something now so you can be better off in the future.


[deleted]

You literally said that they found it easier to watch their mum have sex. STFU.


Ymirsmama

Get a job pal


[deleted]

You act so immature.


[deleted]

Learn to grow a pair.


Nefariouscryptid

This is severe abuse I’m so sorry


Apprehensive_Eraser

That's a crime in a lot of countries


sexysarah5262

Where do you live? Do you live in the US? It is illegal to be naked as an adult in front of a minor. Your mom's bf would definitely get indecent exposure charges and your mother would also have CPS involved


Death2Coriander

This is most definitely child abuse. Do you have another adult relative that could take you in? You also should be in school. What country are you in? I am concerned about your welfare and I also think you need to be wary of this online bf. Have you guys met in person before?


IMOguy

Your mom is clearly abusive. I suggest maybe sleeping on the couch or just leaving the room when this happens. I don't know what country you live in but there's got to be some kind of child services/abuse call center. I would suggest you call that. It also depends on your current age and whether or not you could move.


Away-Ninja5326

This is terrible and it is abuse. You need to reach out tot the authorities and be removed from your situation so you can get back in school and get a fresh start. She’s done you zero favors. I’m so sorry, your mother is not a good mother. Is there any family you can call to get out?


ccccccxy

this is not normal nor is this okay, seriously. what the fuck. can you report this to someone? do you have a friend you can talk to about this, this has to stop.


[deleted]

Next time it happens try to video it for evidence and call the police. This is extremely fucked up.


No-Chipmunk9527

This is NOT ok. This is criminal. This is lewd behavior in front of a minor. This is abuse towards you. Call CPS- tell a mandated reporter you know (a teacher, a school counselor)


cguinnesstout

That's disturbing. She can at least ask you to leave the room.


LBROTSI

This isn't normal at all and not too many people have to deal with this to be honest . Your mom is abusing you . I hope that you go back to school though .


myredditusername919

this would legally be considered sexual abuse and cps would remove you from the home for this. I don’t necessarily suggest calling cps, because dealing with her having sex is probably better than being in a foster home; foster homes are russian roulette. do you have a friend or relative you could stay with?


Rude-Garden8876

Yes, this definitely must affect you. When my parents argued before, I was aware it definitely affected me. When my mother would shout or when I heard loud noises, I would visibly flinch. My mother would have constant outbursts because of her frustrations with her illness (which she didn't bother to hide). I was able to tolerate it buy my sister was definitely affected. One time, we were joking around and the moment my mom had another tantrum, my sister snapped just like that and they had a horrible argument. I've never seen her snap like that before but my mom never had a tantrum like that again. I hope you'll get help that you need.


diaryoffrankanne

The reality of your situation sounds like a combination of fucked up , know anyone you can trust, who yqou can speak to about all this


Mental-Ad-1807

POV: You are living on an NPC's house who is doing their usual things with Sneak 100


aaaaatiddies

please please please call cps. Get out of there. You may be blood related but she is NOT your mom. She is basically showing you pornography except like 10x worse, she can easily be sent to jail for that. Your “mother” is a sex offender. I know this may be hurtful but it is the truth. Please get out and call cps. Enroll back into school, it’s the best thing you can do. Make friends and ask to stay at their house in the meanwhile. It is really important to have outside relationships other than ur bf who isn’t physically there. I hope this made sense. Stay safe.


viixin

A lot of people are also asking about my education. I realize that I made a mistake but unfortunately I can't go back, mainly because of money. I was also diagnosed with Asperger's and social anxiety so the therapist suggested online schooling which is also difficult since we don't have good WiFi and my laptop is a really old make. I might start online schooling next year though, even if money might be a bit scarce. I hope that I can somehow make it work.


Nat-In-Nature

I am really sorry you are dealing with this. This is not normal or appropriate. This is probably actually illegal blatantly. Do you have any close friends or a trusting teacher at school you can confide in? Message me if you need to


iloveforeverstamps

This is not normal and it is a form of sexual abuse, and definitely neglect. What country do you live in?


viixin

I live in south africa


DerthOFdata

How old is your boyfriend?


viixin

a year older than me, 15


DerthOFdata

And how exactly is a 15 year old making plans to fly you to America?


viixin

it can't happen right now, but in the future when it's possible then it could happen


DerthOFdata

Are his parents aware? Is the State department? You can't just immigrate to the US because you want to, there's a process and you need a good reason first. As shitty as your home life is it doesn't count.


viixin

his parents know about it but they don't really care. and we're going to try and find a way to work around those laws, if there is a way


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viixin

are you trying to offend me in some way?


GolfFront

Id say hit her with a bat while shes doing it. I bet shed think twice about it. Sometimes violence is the answer


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pink_skyyy

Ah yes.. there's a special place for sick devils like you..


Xipos

You do realize you're speaking to a minor right?


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viixin

that's very mean to say to someone, don't you think?


viixin

I really hope that you don't disrespect other people like that. that's kinda gross that you would say that.


Bluecherrysoft

Your mother gets wet by knowing that her boyfriend gets off by your presence while fucking her.


Xipos

First off, what the fuck. Second op said that her mom has to say things like "she's used to it" or "she doesn't mind" which tells me the men in this situation are uncomfortable at first. They are still disgusting for doing this in front of a child but there appears to be some hesitancy and the mother resorts to coercion


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Not the time or the place for this bruh.


Alice_In_W0nderland_

What In The Everloving Fuck


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viixin

I hope you don't say that to other people, because that's very rude and can actually hurt someone


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viixin

If you didn't care then you wouldn't be commenting stuff like that